Relationships develop over time, when people share in a real way, so each person can know the other, rather than one person trying to meet the expectation of the other. It takes time to really listen and ask questions, to understand who that person really is.
We respond to people the way we think they think, without really stopping to listen and receive them as the person they are. One of my favorite books, The Velveteen RabbitÂ by Margery Williams, explains becoming Real.
What is Real?